You need more than one person to depend on for support. It’s not fair on that person, and that person may not always be available when you need her/him. Ideally you will have five people, five phone numbers. That increases the odds that someone might be available when you need them.
Likewise, be someone’s 1:5, but don’t let anyone make you a 1:1. That’s too much pressure – you can’t be everything for someone. It has to be okay that you are not always available when someone needs support. Make sure that the people you support have at least four other support people.
The most important person to depend on for support is … YOU!!!
Cultivate a trust in your own ability to handle anything that arises. Keep a tally of every time you managed something, anything – an emotion, a problem, a challenge, an opportunity. Remember it all, and revise it often, so the next time something arises you have evidence that you can handle it – because you have handled so much in the past.
If you truly can’t remember a time that you were able to deal with something, set an intention to start now. Start with small things, and slowly increase the complexity and intensity of situations, feelings, etc, that you handle. For some people it might be ‘I coped with clearing out the wardrobe’. For others it might be ‘I successfully facilitated a meeting’. Add every instance of ‘handling it’ to your ‘I handled it’ inventory.